30th June 2021I had the honour of officiating at the service of the late Ruth Lauretta Badger last week. It was a beautiful service, full of laughter and tears, song and poetry – she loved literature, music, politics and was fiercely protective of her family. She lived life completely, wholly and passionately. Her humour was
Empathetic, individual, unique
My name is Jessika Hulbert.
I am an independent Funeral Celebrant based on the Kent and Sussex border near Tunbridge Wells. It is a privilege to work with the bereaved and I am passionate about what I do. I am mother of four (two at home) and wife to Peter (an architect).
Empathetic, individual & unique
My name is Jessika Hulbert. I am an independent Funeral Celebrant based on the Kent and Sussex border near Tunbridge Wells.
What I Do
As a Funeral Celebrant, I create a service to include whatever elements are important to the family and friends concerned. I carefully listen to what is required from a service, and through detailed discussion learn about the deceased. An order of service is then created, which may include readings, poems, music, memories and prayers and only when all concerned are happy, will the final draft be agreed.
All elements of the funeral service are organised with sensitivity and the utmost attention to detail. I collaborate closely with family and friends of the deceased and funeral directors to ensure that a unique and beautiful final tribute can be created, which conveys the essence of the life that was lived.
Fees - £230-250 + travel expenses
From our very first meeting, Jessika was warm and friendly and respectfully asked relevant questions so that she could fully understand our family, our dad, and what we wanted for his funeral.
Jessika offered us some lovely ideas and gently guided us in putting together a funeral service that fully reflected dad and his qualities. Her ideas such as asking the grandchildren to supply some of their childhood memories and incorporating that within the service particularly resonated with those who had joined us to celebrate dads life with us.
On the day itself, Jessika was friendly, calm and professional, delivering a poignant and touching service. At the funeral reception one lady told her husband that if she should pass soon, she would like Jessika to preside over her service and many others immediately agreed. Other people commented that “it was the nicest funeral (they) had ever attended”.
We were truly blessed to have Jessika with us on our journey.
With thanks from the family.
Hi Jess, Thank you so much for such a warm and emotional tribute to Dad yesterday.
Your guidance and time spent listening to us gave us a service that exceeded all expectations. So many people asked afterwards how you knew Vic, testament indeed to job exceedingly well done.
It was a pleasure to have crossed paths with you, I wish you well on behalf of all of the family.
How do you plan a funeral when you’re so consumed with grief that nothing stays in your brain?
Jess was an absolute rock , she guided my mum, sister and myself through the entire process. Jess got to know dad through our conversations, she was kind, supportive, creative and thoughtful at all times both in person and over the phone or email.
The day came and we had the best funeral for dad, he would have ( hopefully did) love it. It may not have been the most conventional send off but then we’re not the most conventional family.
Jess took our thoughts and turned something so difficult to deal with into the most wonderfully memorable day. Nothing was rushed or overlooked, everyone mattered.
Our friends and relatives all commented on how brilliant Jess had been and how much they’d enjoyed the ceremony, my aunt has even changed her own funeral plans as she was so impressed with the day.
Thanks Jess, this wouldn’t have happened without you, your ideas and your brilliant way with words and people. You gave dad the farewell he deserved.
Kent, Sussex, Surrey, London
- further afield if required
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